One of the hardest things to do — at least for me — is to avoid opposition when discussing an issue. It’s not that hard when I’m about to oppose, but when being confronted with a special kind of opposition known as rejection. Rejection always seems to imply a judgment in the terms of “not good enough”, “stupid idea” or “how dare you”.
The challenge is not to become hardened here, because this stops conversation, stops progress, negatively affects the relationship. It’s to swallow your pride and ask for specific reasons and examples, seek understanding, the common base. It is important that everyone really talks about the same thing. And then it’s alright, even necessary, to be passionate about what you’re convinced of — but not to fall victim for blindfolded fanatism.
Listen first — and then start talking.